By Lavern Nissley, Tuesday@10:10 blog
In late March of this year I began experiencing sharp pains in my left shoulder. At first I thought it was just tendonitis, brought on by random strains. But after examination by professionals and an MRI, I was told that it's a "frozen shoulder", or adhesive capsulitis. Often it is brought on by an injury of some sort.
The remedy? Physical therapy and education. Twelve to fifteen sessions were scheduled to focus upon methodical stretching of various muscles to regain full use. Homework exercises between sessions. All causing pain and discomfort! NO PAIN, NO GAIN.
So the first appointment focused upon assessment, measuring my range of motion, which was quite limited. I couldn't even do the Ohio State "O-H-I-O" arm cheer or fold my arms in front of me - that's how stuck my left shoulder was.
Relationships and marriages can get stuck, too. Often there are relational or emotional injuries that, over time, decrease "range of motion" or healthy responses.
The remedy? Relational therapy and/or education. An investment of time and energy into learning better ways to communicate and resolve conflicts. Homework exercises between sessions. Likely causing pain and discomfort at times! NO PAIN, NO GAIN.
After about 10 physical therapy sessions for the frozen shoulder I can tell a huge difference. One range of motion measurement went from 90 degrees to 154 degrees (target is 180 degrees).
And I can easily do the Ohio State "O-H-I-O" arm cheer and fold my arms again! I am so grateful for the physical therapists that have come along side me to educate, encourage and help make such a difference.
We've seen the same kinds of progress for stuck relationships and marriages. "Cold shoulders" have progressed to warm embraces and a return of intimacy. But not without effort and discomfort. NO PAIN, NO GAIN.
Note: MRCMV offers many programs and resources to help individuals and couples toward healthy relationships. See the listing of programs and classes.
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Main author is Lavern Nissley, Executive Director of MRCMV. Guest authors will be included in posts from time to time.